CHRIS BOHJALIAN QUOTE

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“I wish my life weren’t this record album that’s almost over, and only the first couple of songs were any good.”

ELIZABETH WURTZEL QUOTES

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“That’s the thing about depression: A human being can survive almost anything, as long as she sees the end in sight. But depression is so insidious, and it compounds daily, that it’s impossible to ever see the end.” 

“There is a classic moment in The Sun Also Rises when someone asks Mike Campbell how he went bankrupt, and all he can say in response is, ‘Gradually and then suddenly.’ When someone asks how I lost my mind, that is all I can say too.”

WHO ARE YOU EXPECTED TO BE?

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Quoting from a Patricia Hickman novel:


“How come people hide themselves from each other?” Delia asked.

“I think it’s because we want to be liked,” replied Gaylen.

“But not for who you are.”

“No. For who we’re expected to be.”

“So everybody likes you because they don’t know you. Where does that get you?”

 Where indeed?

 

HEARING EACH OTHER

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more from Richard Wagamese’s One Native Life:

 

We learned that no one of us is ever far away from others,
that we all carry the same baggage in life,
that when we allow ourselves to hear each other, we are joined forever.

Everyone has a story. That’s what the [sharing] circle teaches us. We become better people, a better species, when we take the time to hear them. That’s how you change the world, really.

 

 

THANKFUL FOR THE HARD TEACHINGS?

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from Richard Wagamese’s One Native Life

We walked deep into the bush where [he] made tobacco offerings and gave thanks for everything that had happened in his life. He thanked the universe for the gifts of those teachings.
We heal each other by sharing the stories of our time here. We heal each other through love.
In the Indian way, that means you leading me back to who I am. There’s no bigger gift, and all it takes is listening and hearing.

The man he refers to had a really terrible childhood, so it is amazing for me to realize what he did there in the bush.

Will I ever be able to make gratitude offerings for the hard times because of what they’ve taught me?

 

IDEAS FROM “UNSTUCK”

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From James Gordon’s Unstuck: your guide to the seven-stage journey out of depression


Tasks that were once routine are now ordeals.

[She] lost the sense of pleasure in her life and interest in what once absorbed her.

It has astounded me how big some truly small tasks seem to be. Just thinking of cleaning the bathroom is exhausting, and I used to do it nearly effortlessly several times a week.  I wouldn’t have understood this task-as-ordeal thing without actually experiencing it.

There is very little pleasure in the life of a depressed person.  It is so rare to really enjoy something. That makes the days long.

 

There is every reason for [her] to be depressed. The life she’s been living is no longer serving her.

This woman was living an admirable life, but she was ruled by the expectations of others, and by her own harsh self-judgement and it wasn’t working for her anymore. I try to recall my previous life and I can see some ways that it was too small for me but I didn’t see a way to make it larger.

 

Depression can be a call to transformation, a catalyst to deeper self-knowledge and to a richer experience of who we are, the beginning of a journey toward healing and wholeness.

Gordon’s assertation that depression is more of an opportunity than a disease is rare, and is more hopeful than the mainstream views of depression. He believes that depression is what forces us to face things and make changes and move on in a different plane of life.


Depression almost always brings with it – along with the sense of loss and inadequacy, of gloom and uncertainty – a feeling of immobility, of “stuckness.” It feels as if we’ve broken down, alone and lonely, in some dismal, charmless backwater that no one would every choose to visit.

The beginning of the end of depression comes when we recognize this place, and see it not as the end, but as the beginning, a starting point for the journey through and beyond depression, confusion, and despair, toward wholeness, healing, and delight.

This uncertain, challenging journey is, I believe, the life-defining path that leads us to who we really are, who we are meant to be.

 

 

 

ADVENTURES IN DEPRESSION

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Quoting from Hyperbole’s blog post:

…trying to use willpower to overcome the apathetic sort of sadness that accompanies depression is like a person with no arms trying to punch themselves until their hands grow back.  A fundamental component of the plan is missing and it isn’t going to work.

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